fix(api): a paused viewer keeps its HLS session, a refused subtitle publish backs off, and a NUL is a 422 everywhere

Deep-review round 4, backend half.

- The periodic HLS reaper (round 3) applied the "finished and unfetched for 30 s" rule that only a
  NEW session request may apply. A remux finishes long before the film, and a paused player with a
  full buffer fetches nothing, so a one-minute pause killed the session and playback died ~30 s after
  resuming. The periodic pass is `reap_abandoned` now (the long idle limit, finished or not).
- A subtitle `publish` that could not keep its output (full / read-only cache volume) returned
  quietly, so every poll queued the window and the whole-container pass again. It reports failure
  and the pass is backed off like a failed read; a cached VTT that cannot be READ is answered
  `unavailable` (`cache_unreadable`) instead of scheduling reads that can never land.
- The subtitle routes bound `rating_key` / `sub_ord` (they become a cache file name: a 250-digit
  one was ENAMETOOLONG, which pathlib's exists() re-raises -> a 500), and the cache helpers no longer
  throw on such a name.
- One app-wide handler turns psycopg's "text fields cannot contain NUL" DataError into a 422: round 3
  guarded only the by-rating_key lookup, and `contains=`, `contains_group=`, reorder/bulk key lists
  and the collection search still 500'd.
- The hand-written `db.get(...) is None -> 404 "Unknown ..."` siblings use `get_or_404` with a
  `what` (channel / video / user), so the Hungarian UI no longer shows English for a gone row.

backend/app/routes/playlists.py

@@ -23,7 +23,7 @@ from app.sync.playlists import (
     sync_user_playlists,
 )
 from app.ratelimit import RateLimiter
-from app.routes._common import not_found, owned_or_404
+from app.routes._common import get_or_404, owned_or_404
 from app.youtube.client import YouTubeClient, YouTubeError
 
 router = APIRouter(prefix="/api/playlists", tags=["playlists"])
@@ -292,8 +292,7 @@ def add_watch_later(
 ) -> dict:
     """Bookmark shortcut: add a video to the built-in Watch later playlist."""
     video_id = body.video_id
-    if db.get(Video, video_id) is None:
-        raise not_found("video")
+    get_or_404(db, Video, video_id, what="video")
     pl = _watch_later(db, user)
     _add_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=False)
     return {"saved": True, "playlist_id": pl.id}
@@ -513,8 +512,7 @@ def add_item(
 ) -> dict:
     pl = _own_playlist(db, user, playlist_id)
     video_id = body.video_id
-    if db.get(Video, video_id) is None:
-        raise not_found("video")
+    get_or_404(db, Video, video_id, what="video")
     _add_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=True)
     return {"playlist_id": pl.id, "video_id": video_id}