fix: address the feature review — accurate copy, reachable controls, real coverage

Round 1 on the feature diff found 15; the substantive ones:

- The delete control VANISHED on any invite whose address had registered, which
  is the ordinary sign-up shape (register writes the User and the pending invite
  together). The guard stays broad — that row is the account's approval gate, and
  orphaning it strands someone who can then neither sign in nor be approved — but
  the control is now a disabled button carrying the reason, on both lists, so an
  admin never sees a row silently missing a button its neighbours have.
- Deleting an entry is not always a revoke: is_allowed falls back to the env
  ALLOWED_EMAILS / ADMIN_EMAILS lists once no row exists, and an ADMIN_EMAILS
  address is force-promoted on its next Google sign-in. The route now reports
  still_allowed_by_env and the UI says so instead of claiming access was removed.
- "Deny keeps the row so they can't immediately re-ask" was simply false —
  upsert_pending_invite reopens a denied row. Corrected everywhere it was stated.
- The Configuration warning reads me.email_configured, which save() did not
  invalidate, so it kept warning about fields the admin had just filled in.
- The read-only variant was an aria-hidden span explained only by a Tooltip that
  the hints toggle can switch off; now a disabled button with title + aria-label.
- The delete error path threw away the 409's reason (the stale-list case) and
  left the stale row on screen.
- The throttle window was spent even when no notice was written, silencing the
  next hour on the path whose job is to stop silent drops.
- email_enabled() opened a second session and decrypted the SMTP password on
  every /api/me poll; it now takes the caller's session.
- welcomeMode.dom.test.ts never rendered the card, so reverting the history
  wiring to useState left it green. A render test now drives the real links and
  fails on that revert (verified).

Plus /api/me flag tests, the registration-shaped pending case, the env-allowlist
case, and a release note that matches what the code does.

backend/app/email.py

@@ -17,10 +17,12 @@ from email.message import EmailMessage
 from email.utils import formatdate
 
 from sqlalchemy import select
+from sqlalchemy.orm import Session
 
 from app import sysconfig
 from app.config import settings
 from app.db import SessionLocal
+from app.models import User
 from app.notifications import create_notification
 from app.ratelimit import RateLimiter
 
@@ -39,8 +41,6 @@ def _alert_admins(reason: str, subject: str, recipients: list[str]) -> None:
     if not _alert_throttle.allow(reason):
         return
     try:
-        from app.models import User  # local: app.models imports settle before this ever runs
-
         with SessionLocal() as db:
             admins = (
                 db.execute(
@@ -54,6 +54,9 @@ def _alert_admins(reason: str, subject: str, recipients: list[str]) -> None:
                 .all()
             )
             if not admins:
+                # Nothing was recorded, so don't let this cost the next hour of alerts on the very
+                # path whose job is to stop drops going unseen. Same on the failure branch below.
+                _alert_throttle.reset()
                 return
             for uid in admins:
                 create_notification(
@@ -68,24 +71,33 @@ def _alert_admins(reason: str, subject: str, recipients: list[str]) -> None:
                 )
             db.commit()
     except Exception:
+        _alert_throttle.reset()
         log.exception("Could not record the undelivered-email notice (%r)", subject)
 
 
-def _smtp() -> dict:
-    """Effective SMTP config (admin DB override over env defaults). Opens its own short
-    session because email is often sent from a BackgroundTask, outside a request's db."""
-    with SessionLocal() as db:
-        return {
-            "host": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_host"),
-            "port": sysconfig.get_int(db, "smtp_port"),
-            "user": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_user"),
-            "password": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_password"),
-            "from": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_from"),
-        }
+def _read_smtp(db: Session) -> dict:
+    return {
+        "host": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_host"),
+        "port": sysconfig.get_int(db, "smtp_port"),
+        "user": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_user"),
+        "password": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_password"),
+        "from": sysconfig.get_str(db, "smtp_from"),
+    }
 
 
-def email_enabled() -> bool:
-    c = _smtp()
+def _smtp(db: Session | None = None) -> dict:
+    """Effective SMTP config (admin DB override over env defaults). Opens its own short session when
+    the caller has none, because email is usually sent from a BackgroundTask outside a request's db.
+    A caller that IS inside a request should pass its session: reading the password decrypts a Fernet
+    value, and /api/me polls this for every admin tab."""
+    if db is not None:
+        return _read_smtp(db)
+    with SessionLocal() as own:
+        return _read_smtp(own)
+
+
+def email_enabled(db: Session | None = None) -> bool:
+    c = _smtp(db)
     return bool(c["host"] and c["user"] and c["password"])