fix(api): mutations answer ok; route helpers flush and leave the commit to the handler

Two rows of the canonical-patterns table had drifted, found while closing the roadmap audit:

- 63 mutation responses carried no `ok` — `{"unsubscribed": true}`, `{"status": "ok"}`,
  `{"added": 3, …}` and so on. Each now leads with `"ok": true` (additive: every field a client
  reads is still there).
- Twelve route helpers committed on their own. Six were just the end of their handler's work and now
  flush: the playlist item add/remove and Watch later get-or-create, the Plex series/season bulk
  mark, and the invite decision + account activation — which an approval used to land in separate
  transactions. The other six commit on purpose (a token durable before its link is mailed, a
  single-use token burned as its own unit, the Google callback's tail, a background registration
  with its own session, the staged search ingest around YouTube calls), each listed with its reason.

`tests/test_route_conventions.py` holds both rules in code; CLAUDE.md's two rows point at it.

CLAUDE.md

@@ -82,8 +82,8 @@ CQRS, a repository/DI framework, a router library, a generic CRUD-router factory
 | Admin gate import       | `app.auth`                                                   | the `app.routes.admin` re-export                       |
 | Upstream failure status | `422` with JSON detail                                       | `502` (reserve 502 for raw byte-proxies)               |
 | User-facing error       | structured `detail` (`{code, reason}`)                       | a bare English string under a bilingual UI             |
-| Mutation response       | `{"ok": true, …}` (`{"deleted": id}`)                        | ad-hoc `{"unsubscribed"}`/`{"cleared": n}`/echo        |
-| Transaction commit      | the handler/job-wrapper commits; helpers `flush`             | helpers that commit (only `quota` owns its session)    |
+| Mutation response       | `{"ok": true, …}` (`{"deleted": id}`), test-held             | a bare `{"unsubscribed"}`/`{"cleared": n}`, no `ok`    |
+| Transaction commit      | the handler commits; helpers `flush` (test-held list)        | helpers that commit (only `quota` owns its session)    |
 | Admin knob storage      | `sysconfig` (values)                                         | env / `app_state` / `scheduler_settings` scatter       |
 | Job status word         | the `downloads/status.py` StrEnum                            | loose `"canceled"`/`"cancelled"` literals              |
 | Current time            | inline `datetime.now(timezone.utc)`                          | new `now_utc`/`_now` helpers                           |