fix(api): mutations answer ok; route helpers flush and leave the commit to the handler

Two rows of the canonical-patterns table had drifted, found while closing the roadmap audit:

- 63 mutation responses carried no `ok` — `{"unsubscribed": true}`, `{"status": "ok"}`,
  `{"added": 3, …}` and so on. Each now leads with `"ok": true` (additive: every field a client
  reads is still there).
- Twelve route helpers committed on their own. Six were just the end of their handler's work and now
  flush: the playlist item add/remove and Watch later get-or-create, the Plex series/season bulk
  mark, and the invite decision + account activation — which an approval used to land in separate
  transactions. The other six commit on purpose (a token durable before its link is mailed, a
  single-use token burned as its own unit, the Google callback's tail, a background registration
  with its own session, the staged search ingest around YouTube calls), each listed with its reason.

`tests/test_route_conventions.py` holds both rules in code; CLAUDE.md's two rows point at it.

backend/app/routes/playlists.py

@@ -106,7 +106,7 @@ def _add_item(db: Session, pl: Playlist, video_id: str, *, mark_dirty: bool) ->
     if mark_dirty:
         recompute_dirty(db, pl)
     _touch(pl)
-    db.commit()
+    db.flush()  # the handler commits (CLAUDE.md: helpers flush)
     return True
 
 
@@ -124,7 +124,7 @@ def _remove_item(db: Session, pl: Playlist, video_id: str, *, mark_dirty: bool)
     if mark_dirty:
         recompute_dirty(db, pl)
     _touch(pl)
-    db.commit()
+    db.flush()  # the handler commits (CLAUDE.md: helpers flush)
     return True
 
 
@@ -278,7 +278,7 @@ def _watch_later(db: Session, user: User) -> Playlist:
             position=_next_playlist_position(db, user.id),
         )
         db.add(pl)
-        db.commit()
+        db.flush()  # the id, for the item the caller adds next; the handler commits
     return pl
 
 
@@ -293,7 +293,8 @@ def add_watch_later(
     get_or_404(db, Video, video_id, what="video")
     pl = _watch_later(db, user)
     _add_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=False)
-    return {"saved": True, "playlist_id": pl.id}
+    db.commit()
+    return {"ok": True, "saved": True, "playlist_id": pl.id}
 
 
 @router.delete("/watch-later/{video_id}")
@@ -307,7 +308,8 @@ def remove_watch_later(
     )
     if pl is not None:
         _remove_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=False)
-    return {"saved": False}
+        db.commit()
+    return {"ok": True, "saved": False}
 
 
 @router.post("/sync-youtube")
@@ -516,7 +518,8 @@ def add_item(
     video_id = body.video_id
     get_or_404(db, Video, video_id, what="video")
     _add_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=True)
-    return {"playlist_id": pl.id, "video_id": video_id}
+    db.commit()
+    return {"ok": True, "playlist_id": pl.id, "video_id": video_id}
 
 
 @router.delete("/{playlist_id}/items/{video_id}")
@@ -528,7 +531,8 @@ def remove_item(
 ) -> dict:
     pl = owned_or_404(db, Playlist, playlist_id, user, what="playlist")
     _remove_item(db, pl, video_id, mark_dirty=True)
-    return {"playlist_id": pl.id, "video_id": video_id}
+    db.commit()
+    return {"ok": True, "playlist_id": pl.id, "video_id": video_id}
 
 
 class MoveItemIn(BaseModel):
@@ -641,4 +645,4 @@ def reorder_items(
     recompute_dirty(db, pl)
     _touch(pl)
     db.commit()
-    return {"playlist_id": pl.id, "count": pos}
+    return {"ok": True, "playlist_id": pl.id, "count": pos}