fix(sync): an empty answer the remote's own count contradicts is not believed, one level down

E32 review round 1 (B1, B2, B3, B8).

- Plex watch reconcile: a section the server SAYS is empty (totalSize 0, nothing listed) is a
  complete listing. It read as "cut short" forever, so one empty library stopped un-watches from
  ever syncing. A listing with no total at all stays incomplete (the client now returns None for
  it instead of 0), and a whole scan that listed nothing still clears nothing. Tests now cover
  completeness across two sections, both orders.
- Plex collections: no members from a collection whose listing counts some (childCount) keeps
  the membership we hold, in the full sync and in the targeted resync after a write.
- YouTube playlists: no items for a playlist whose listing counts some (itemCount) keeps the
  mirror in the bulk pull, and is refused as retryable in "reset to YouTube" and in the push
  plan/merge, where it read as "YouTube deleted them all". The rule sits beside vanished().
- A playlist deleted on YouTube answered "reconnect your account"; it now says it is gone
  (errors.youtube.gone, HU+EN).
- The pure 3-way merge moved to sync/playlist_merge.py; playlists.py is back under 800 lines and
  off the size list.

backend/tests/test_youtube_refusals.py

@@ -27,6 +27,9 @@ from app.youtube.client import YouTubeError, refusal_reason
         (YouTubeError("No refresh token; user must re-authenticate"), "reconnect"),
         (YouTubeError("m", reason="transport"), "unavailable"),
         (YouTubeError("m", reason="backendError", path="subscriptions"), "unavailable"),
+        # A playlist deleted on YouTube: neither a retry nor a reconnect helps (it said "reconnect").
+        (YouTubeError("m", reason="playlistNotFound", path="playlists"), "gone"),
+        (YouTubeError("m", reason="emptyAnswer", path="playlistItems"), "unavailable"),
     ],
 )
 def test_a_failure_is_sorted_by_what_the_user_can_do(exc, reason):