feat(ux): R11 feedback symmetry — Plex/download/rollback/deny notices

Give equal-weight actions equal-weight feedback (R11).

S1 Plex error toasts: the watched-toggles (card / season mark-all / episode /
info-panel / show mark-all) used to fail silently on 403/404/429; each now surfaces
the server reason via a shared notifyActionError() + resyncs the optimistic flip.
The playback auto-mark-watched stays intentionally silent (a mid-play toast is
noise; the next sync corrects it). New generic lib/actionErrors.ts (Plex + saved
views reuse it; notifyYouTubeActionError delegates its non-403 case to it).

S2 download-done inbox notification: worker.py emits a best-effort type=download_done
notice to the job owner on real completion (regular + edit jobs, not instant
cache-hits), rendered/localized in the inbox with an Open-Downloads link.

S3 optimistic rollbacks: SavedViewsWidget create/rename/toggle-default/remove/reorder
and the inbox revert-state no longer swallow failures — they toast + refetch to
resync (the reorder's optimistic order reverts to server truth).

S4 access-request deny: deny_invite now emails the requester (send_access_denied),
mirroring approve — no more silent limbo.

frontend/src/lib/youtubeErrors.ts

@@ -1,5 +1,6 @@
 import { HttpError } from "./api";
 import { notify } from "./notifications";
+import { notifyActionError } from "./actionErrors";
 import i18n from "../i18n";
 
 // A YouTube-gated action (subscribe, sync, backfill, unsubscribe) that 403s means the user hasn't
@@ -25,5 +26,5 @@ export function notifyYouTubeActionError(
   }
   // Any other error: prefer the server's own reason (e.g. "Not enough quota left today") over the
   // caller's generic fallback — the useful detail was being discarded (U-3.2.8).
-  notify({ level: "error", message: httpErr?.detail || fallbackMessage });
+  notifyActionError(err, fallbackMessage);
 }